Archive | December, 2012


28 Dec

Following the release of the (former) Dallas Cowboys player’s alcohol results from a recent crash (not an accident) that ended his best friend’s young life, I have decided to write this post.

The (former) player’s BAC was over .18 at the time of the crash, following a night out at the clubs in the Dallas area. The legal BAC limit is .08 in Texas, as it is in most states. But why? How many times have you drove after a few drinks? Did you really know your BAC? Probably not.

Playing with BAC limits makes no sense. The BAC limit for driving should be 0.0 or layman’s terms: zero BAC. That means if you have one drink, you don’t drive (at least for the next hour or so). Alcohol usually leaves the system at about a drink an hour.

I get so tired of hearing of DUI deaths as “accidents”. It is no accident when one chooses to drink and then drive.

If you ever get a chance, drop in on a Victim Impact Panel or a similar panel (usually a survivor of a drinking/driving fatality speaks about his or her experience). One story, I read about was about a guy (actually a police officer) who investigates a drinking/driving fatality scene which turns out to involve his own wife and baby who died at the hands of a repeat offender. The guy tells others, “…the third fatality was me. Life, as I knew it, ended when I opened those cadaver bags. I had all that I had ever desired in life and it was gone in an instant.”

Please do your part and only drive on a zero BAC.



Single vs. Not Single Revisited

27 Dec

Oops…I did it again…I fell in love, only to have my heart ripped out and stomped on.

I had just written a post on the advantages of Being Single and didn’t even heed my own advice.

I recently heard someone say that it is easy to fall in love (way to easy). I think it is God’s way of making sure his children live on. How many babies are produced in the first six months of “in love” relationships? I don’t know but I figure, a whole lot.

Since my office is next door to the child support office. I see multiple of men and women flocking into the office. Why? Generally, because they made a baby before either partner knew what hit them and now the child suffers.

So back to me on my latest love experiment. I know, I know, an experiment, that’s not romantic. Well, it is my blog so that is what I call it. I broke my two top rules to let the latest love into my life. Take it from me, we have rules for a reason. Rules are there to protect us from ourselves.

I had come to believe the latest advice to “wait” for the right one, in the meantime, just keep taking care of yourself and the be best person I can be. Well, the latest love was my next door neighbor who I didn’t meet until she came over after I lived next door to her for three months. Yes, people, I waited and this is the thanks I get.

I even changed my view of why God moved me to Ardmore. I believed that he moved me so I can meet my next door neighbor. I mean how often does that happen? Well, it never happened to me before.

In this latest love experiment, I really never got my footing. Meaning, I never felt comfortable with the other person (since I had violated my top two rules). However, in so many relationships, everything is just wonderful until…it’s not. What happens? And how do others maintain long term relationships? What are they doing that is different than the rest of us? Are they just more accepting and loving? Are they just more dependent on that person?

Very recently now, I know of two (over 20 year relationships) come to end. The biggest reason they stayed in that long was for the kids. How do you think the kids feel now that you lived a lie for all of those years to yourself, to your spouse and to your kids?

So now what for me? My mom’s advice (as always) is to leave the ladies alone for a bit. But that is hard for this “ladies’ man”. I know one thing for sure, I won’t break my two top rules again.

Semi-Automatic Weapons???????

17 Dec

Good morning,

I am posting comments from an individual that goes by “Vince545056” on MSN for the story MSN ran, headline: Very heavily Armed Gunman Shot Mother Multiple Times Before Killing 26 at Connecticut School, Police Say. I have deleted some words like “gun freak” since I don’t believe those descriptors are necessary here.

Vince545056 said, The reason for the gun violence in our culture is the fact that everyone is armed (47% are). Statistics show that people who own guns are far more likely to shoot themselves or their loved ones accidentally or have someone use that (weapon) against them than they are ever to shoot an intruder or someone trying to do them harm.

If this gun owner (Newtown’s shooter’s mom) had not owned semi-automatic (it seems more like automatic to me) than her (son) couldn’t have murdered her, twenty {6 to 7 year olds} and six teachers. The idiotic belief that guns don’t kill people, people kill people is about as (insane) as saying that nuclear bombs don’t kill people, people kill people. If arming everyone with a gun will make us safe, then giving everyone a nuclear bomb will make us even safer (I don’t think so).

Let’s think about this:  one man (well, more than one man tried it) tries to use his shoes to blow up a plane and NOW everyone has to take their shoes off to board an aircraft. We’ve NOW had 31 SCHOOL SHOOTINGS since Columbine (99′), 100’s of people (are) dead from mass shootings around the nation, and the gun (owners) cry about having to give up their SEMI-AUTOMATIC WEAPONS and having background checks.

Guns (semi-automatic weapons) have two purposes: killing and practice killing. The ONLY people who should be able to own a gun (semi-automatic weapon) are (active) law enforcement and (active) military personnel. No one else has any legitimate reason for owning a gun, whatsoever.

Editor’s note: The semi-automatic weapon used by the Newtown mass murderer is the same weapon that was used 10 years ago by the D.C. Sniper. Time for real change is NOW. Not 10 years from now. Tell that to the latest victims…oh, right, you can’t they are all dead.

Editor’s note: This is another case of untreated mental illness. If you or someone you know has a mental health issue, get help immediately.


Update on 8/29/14: A 9 year old girl “accidentally” shot and killed the Arizona gun range instructor, Charles Vacca this past week. Really??? People, think!!!!